DESPITE
INFERTILITY, YOUR MARRIAGE CAN REMAIN STRONG
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he season of struggle is the best time you can
build your self confidence and depend on one another in your marriage.
Infertility is one struggle nobody ever prepares couples for during the
courtship period, a no go area which may be misinterpreted as wishing the
couple bad luck in marriage.
Today it has become a major life challenge in many
marriages, causing some certain kind of pains and confusion when not properly
managed. Just like any other complication, it has the capacity to destroy
marriage.
Unfortunately, a women dealing with infertility
can sometimes feel that she is carrying the burden alone if she is not getting
the necessary support from her spouse and it can affect her emotional stability
and her vulnerability at large.
Empathy is key
The journey of infertility in your marriage must
be seen as a shared responsibility and not a burden for your wife alone to
bear, it is therefore important that you are both open and honest with each
other about your individual feelings during the waiting period.
Your
wife may have suddenly lost pleasure and interest in the things you once
enjoyed together during this waiting period and this is a common trait in most
women going through the anxiety and unhappiness when pregnancy is delayed. Even
though you may not be able to solve her problem, you must also learn to accept
her feelings as your support is very important at this time.
Fight your fears
Some couples are afraid to admit the problem of
infertility in their marriage; they feel that acceptance could mean that they
are managing to keep the marriage together. The most difficult truth about
infertility is fear but if you are both open-minded about the situation, you
will be able to fight your fears. You can both help each other to balance the
way you think and feel as you both journey through the process of parenthood.
Inasmuch as this may sound insensitive, the truth
can hurt so deep and infertility can certainly put your marriage to test. But
when you consider all the opportunities you have to make your marriage stronger
despite the challenges, it is only then that you can find the strength to carry
on.
Protect your spouse
One of greatest challenges you and your spouse
will face during the course of her infertility will be dealing with the
opinions and reactions of others. It is not unusual for families and friends to
offer their own solutions, make certain suggestions and give opinions too which
may or may not go down well with you or your spouse.
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